Up until a few years ago, I never wanted children. I was so career and money focused that I didn’t stop to think about what I actually wanted out of life. People would question my want for children, ‘Oh you’ll change your mind one day’ they’d say, but I was sure I wouldn’t.
I worked all the hours I could and would fall asleep on the sofa early evening, often going without dinner just so that I could pay my mortgage and for my car.
I never had extragant holidays, although I would have loved too. I never spoilt myself with fancy clothes or lavish evenings out, they would have been nice, but no, every penny went to securing my future. The future I had yet to figure out.
To cut a long story short, in the space of a few years, I was made redundant from my job, having been there for 8 years and also had to give up my house.
I had no choice but to house share which in the end, I actually enjoyed. No longer faced with ridiculous outgoings I could enjoy some of my hard earned pennies.
Roll on a couple of years, when I got together with Trevor and within no time at all, we was engaged and pregnant with Jack. To think that for all those years, I was adamant I wouldn’t have my own family and was totally money focused.
Before Jack arrived, we enjoyed weekends away, holidays, takeaways and nights out, buying goodies for ourselves and gifts for each other. We didn’t have a care in the world. It was great.
Since Jack arrived, we’ve seen a significant change in our income since being on Maternity Leave. Those things we spent our money on are no longer a consideration and to be fair, we’ve hardly noticed.
That’s because those things no longer matter, they have no value to us. Money and materials are just trivial and these days, to us, meaningless. Our priority is now with Jack and our forthcoming arrival. OUR FAMILY.
People often worry that they won’t be able to afford children, but the saying is true, you’ll always find a way and with a new change in priorities, you learn to easily cutback.
Every penny we have spare these days gets spent on family days out, clothes and pressies for Jack and the baby, or simply to top-up their saving accounts. I cannot remember the last time we bought anything for ourselves.
As long as we are all healthy and happy, that’s all that really counts. The future will take care of itself and the times we share are priceless. I wouldn’t have it any other way.