10 ways to involve your children in your Wedding Day

Whilst some couples choose to marry before having children, Trevor and I both loved the idea of our children being present at our wedding.

Almost four years after we met and having been blessed now with two children, Jack and Hudson, we are in the process of planning our August 2017 wedding.

The main purchases and arrangements have been made and so thoughts have turned to the children and about how to involve them in our wedding day.

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My friend Google has given me some lovely ideas and here are just a few of my favourites (to suit various ages).

1. Let them help you choose your wedding rings

This one is a nice and simple way to make your children feel like they have had meaningful input from the word go.

2. Engrave their initials in your ring

Engraving their initials on the inside of your wedding band will show your little ones how central they are to the big day.

3. Let them contribute to the wedding decor

Most littles love a bit of DIY crafting.  They can help you create invitations, place cards, decorations, confetti cones or wedding favours.

4. Ask your children to walk you down the aisle

Have one or all of your children walk you to the altar to switch things up and make your procession super-meaningful.  This idea is especially great if your children are older.

5. Have them as your flower girl and/or ring bearer

The classic, kid-friendly roles of flower girl and ring bearer are simple, fun and always a crowd-pleaser.

6. Make them bridesmaids and groomsmen

Why not let your kids be bridesmaids or groomsmen?  This idea works especially well if your children are older than 10, the typical age cutoff for flower girls and ring bearers.

7. Write your kids into your vows

Recognising your children in the vows is an easy way to make them feel included and special.  It’s also important to remind them that you’re committing to being a family and not just a wife or husband.

8. Be introduced as a family

Consider not only being introduced as a new Mr. and Mrs. but as a family unit.  This will make sure that your children are recognised as part of this important life occasion.

9. Reflect all involved in the cake toppers

Set your kids on the fondant-covered tiers in the form of cake toppers, that can be personalised by age, hair and eye colour.

10. Give them a moment to shine

If your child is passionate or gifted in singing or dancing, you could ask them to showcase their talents in a special performance for everyone.  A moment in the spotlight might mean a lot to them.

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Naturally, these are age dependent but there are certainly some that I cannot wait to include in our big day.  But, just what they are, you’ll have to wait and see.  I’m getting so excited.

Lisa x

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  • Reply
    August 7, 2017 at 10:37 am

    I’m really not sure about some of these ideas. Your children ‘giving you away’ by walking you down the aisle is particularly weird no?

    • Reply
      Lisa Hudson
      August 11, 2017 at 1:45 pm

      No, I disagree. I’m not quite sure why any of these ideas would be seen as weird. I think its a lovely gesture having your children walk you down the aisle. x

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    Margaret GALLAGHER
    April 7, 2017 at 11:42 pm

    Great ways to make memories special for all the family

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    Lorna Ledger
    April 1, 2017 at 3:14 pm

    great ideas, I think your children should be involved x

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      Lisa Hudson
      April 6, 2017 at 11:06 pm

      Couldnt agree more. Its a nice touch I think x

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    Jennifer Haden
    March 30, 2017 at 8:33 am

    aw, I love the idea of them walking you down the aisle! And i bet it would mean alot to them too. Great ideas, love it! 🙂

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    Random Musings
    March 30, 2017 at 2:52 am

    What lovely ideas. I really like the one about involving them in your vows and being introduced as family as I think it will really make them feel included in the day

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    Plutonium Sox
    March 24, 2017 at 8:47 pm

    Aww I didn’t realise you were getting married this year, how lovely. Nat at Diary of UEM blog got her little boy involved in her wedding and it was lovely. It made me wish ours had been there when we got married. I look forward to hearing about your day.

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