I shall never know a daughter, but that’s okay…

Having had two children, both of them boys, the obvious question everyone likes to ask us is, “So, when are you going to try for a girl?”. 

Firstly, we could have six further children and still not be guaranteed a girl.

Having two children is perfect for us.  In reality, it’s just not practical logistically or financially, to have any more.

There is plenty of space at home for us currently and we are perfectly happy where we are.  Not only would more children mean the need for a bigger home, we would also need to invest in a new car.

Taking on a bigger car and home would impact hugely on our finances.  Meanwhile, we would also need to find the extra income for the basics of raising a further child.  But, lets face it, kids are expensive.


So, would I like a daughter?  Not really, if I’m honest.  Femininity is hardly my strong point.

My teenage social life saw we studying martial arts and watching my favourite football team at Upton Park.

I’m rubbish at styling hair and as for make-up, pah!  Well actually, I did resolve to apply mascara daily this new year (in an attempt to make some sort of effort) and so far that’s not going so well.  I must try harder.

It is very rare, that I might slip force myself into a dress.  The fact is that I just don’t do girly stuff, I never have and so how would I manage with a girl?

I really couldn’t imagine myself with a daughter and truly believe that being a mum to boys is how it was supposed to be.  And yes, that’s okay.

Lisa x

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    January 31, 2017 at 1:11 pm

    As you know we contemplated that third child for a long time, but it just isn’t for us. We’re hapy as a foursome, our house is just about big enough for the 4 of us and I actually have a bit of me back again not just ‘Mum’, I don;t think I could go back to it all now at all.

    Stevie x

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      Lisa Hudson
      February 1, 2017 at 7:07 pm

      Thats totally understandable Stevie. Two is definitely enough, no matter what their age. Besides, you can babysit mine, whenever you like xx

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    January 12, 2017 at 2:23 pm

    So glad you are happy with the boys, I know some people who have gone on and on in search for a girl but have ended up with almost six children to do so!

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      Lisa Hudson
      January 17, 2017 at 3:28 pm

      So true, one friend was the 6th child and 1st girl. Her mum would have carried on until she got a girl ???? – I don’t think I would cope haha xx

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    Kim Carberry
    January 10, 2017 at 6:54 pm

    I feel the same but I have two girls….I could never imagine having a boy.

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      Lisa Hudson
      January 17, 2017 at 3:29 pm

      My friend is the same with her two girls. We get what we are given at the end of the day and as long as they are healthy xx

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    January 10, 2017 at 5:08 pm

    Loved this post – I had one of each before having our third. People are funny as when we told them I was expecting number three a few said why? I had a boy and a girl already. I think it’s time we stop making assumptions about the genders we *should* have. It’s not like we can actually choose a gender yet!

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      Lisa Hudson
      January 17, 2017 at 3:31 pm

      Very true Emma. I’ve never understood it x

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    Plutonium Sox
    January 10, 2017 at 2:55 pm

    This is so perfect Lisa. I have two girls and feel exactly the same. I don’t think about us as missing out by not having a boy in the family, I just think of how lucky my two girls are that they’re so close in age and get along so well with each other. We won’t be having a third child and I think it would ruin the gorgeous dynamic that my two have. We all love our families and gender is totally irrelevant. Your two boys are utterly adorable, why would you need anything else?

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      Lisa Hudson
      January 17, 2017 at 3:32 pm

      Exactly! Health and happiness all the way. My two have become very close recently, it’s lovely to see and I wouldn’t want that to change xx

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    Alan herbert
    January 10, 2017 at 9:58 am

    Yes as a stepfather/father to 3 boys I constantly was asked this.

    When we decided to have one more it wasn’t in the hope of a girl, in fact I was terrified at the news Little Miss OMG was a girl.

    Now she’s here I wouldn’t change her for the world. But if she’s been a bit of wouldn’t have made a difference.

    Great post. Well besides the football team choice!!

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