Wedding Planning – My First Thoughts

Trevor and I have been together now for over three years and have been engaged for two.  Whilst we are both keen to marry, we both agreed that having children would be our priority.  Now that we have been blessed with our two handsome boys and with no immediate plans for any more children, we have decided to start planning our wedding.

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Recently, I wrote my 40 before 40 Bucket List which includes a list of 40 things I would love to do before I turn 40 in 6 years time.  Marrying Trevor was my No.1.

Trouble is, the wedding day makes me feel anxious and the whole planning process is suddenly a very daunting one.  Organisation is not my forte.  I did actually apply to appear on ‘Don’t Tell the Bride’ but never heard back.  Allowing Trevor to plan the wedding would be fine by me.

Some people might prefer a huge event with no expense spared but for me, our dream wedding would be the total opposite.  Having a big wedding really does not appeal to me.

In all honesty, I would happily get married with a couple of witnesses and have done with it but Trevor wants the whole works.  I just want to marry Trevor and to finally share the same family surname with Trevor and the boys.

Also, our money these days is better spent elsewhere, ie. on our boys.  I would rather enjoy our money on incredible experiences for our family and also to put money aside for the boys’ future rather than ‘splash the cash’ on a fancy affair that will last for all of one day.

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So here goes…

Wedding Planning – Things on my mind so far:

  • Date – We originally said we would like to marry on 06/05/2017 (our 4yr anniversary date) although that may not be feasible.
  • Budget – Our income has taken a huge hit since I’ve been on maternity leave so the costs will need to be kept to a minimum.
  • Location – Our family and friends are located all over the South of England, from Cornwall through to Essex.
  • Guests – My family in particular is huge, as is our lovely list of friends but as I don’t want a large wedding (and money is tight) so we may have to upset some people.
  • Venue – This largely depends on the location we chose to marry but I have already ruled out marrying in a Church.  Neither of us are religious and I would prefer a venue with a little difference.

Anyone know a wedding planner?

Lisa x

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20 Comments

  • Reply
    Jordanne | Thelifeofaglasgowgirl
    August 8, 2016 at 2:10 am

    I really can’t wait till I start planning my wedding! I’m so excited for all the chaos if I’m honest haha its nice that you aren’t fixated on a big huge one and would rather spend your money on your boys etc… that’s really nice.

    Jordanne || Thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk

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      Lisa Hudson
      August 26, 2016 at 2:34 pm

      I was like that too at first, but now my priorities have changed so much. I still want a nice wedding dont get me wrong, i just dont want it to be mahoosive 🙂 xx

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    Kerry Norris
    August 6, 2016 at 8:59 pm

    Good luck with it. It’s so stressful. I actually wanted to get married abroad but my mother in law wouldn’t let me. All I’d say is do what you want and don’t listen to any pressure from family or friends x

    • Reply
      Lisa Hudson
      August 26, 2016 at 2:35 pm

      Kerry, I would love to get married abroad too! Would save all the hassle of working out who to invite 🙂 xx

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    Fashion and Style Police
    August 5, 2016 at 9:22 am

    Good luck with the plans. I am sure you will find loads of wedding planners in the London/Essex areas.

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    Emma T
    August 4, 2016 at 11:40 pm

    Exciting stuff. Hard when you both want different things but you can certainly keep costs down if you’re happy to do things yourself.

    • Reply
      Lisa Hudson
      August 26, 2016 at 2:40 pm

      Yeh I plan on doing as much as i can myself so hope to keep the costs down that way for sure. Thanks for popping by the blog xx

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    Ana De- Jesus
    August 4, 2016 at 10:45 pm

    Aw shame you didn’t hear back I love that show! I hope that the wedding planning goes ok but as you said it is difficult x

    • Reply
      Lisa Hudson
      August 26, 2016 at 2:41 pm

      Thank you, I might just let Trevor organise it anyway 🙂 I think he’d do a better job than me actually haha xx

  • Reply
    Lisa Jane
    August 4, 2016 at 9:45 pm

    Aw very exciting times are ahead! I loved planning our wedding:)

    • Reply
      Lisa Hudson
      August 26, 2016 at 2:41 pm

      Definitely! I cant wait to be his wife 🙂 x

  • Reply
    Lyndsey O'Halloran
    August 4, 2016 at 8:09 pm

    Unfortunately I have no advice. My husband and I ran away to Florida just the two of us and let someone there sort everything out for us!

    • Reply
      Lisa Hudson
      August 26, 2016 at 2:42 pm

      You’ve given me all the advice i need – running away to get married sounds perfect! 🙂 x

  • Reply
    Linda
    August 4, 2016 at 4:33 pm

    I am actually gutted that you have not asked me to help x I said I would months ago and not expect an invite at all xx Anything I can do I will xx

    • Reply
      Lisa Hudson
      August 4, 2016 at 7:16 pm

      Don’t be stupid, you’ll be towards the top of the guest list! Just as soon as we have some idea of what we want I’ll be calling upon you and your services, don’t you worry about that! 🙂 xx

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    Nikki
    August 4, 2016 at 1:04 pm

    Good luck with the wedding planning. I have my wedding all planned out in my head. Will need to convince my oh to pop the question tho! 🙂

    • Reply
      Lisa Hudson
      August 26, 2016 at 2:46 pm

      Thank you – good luck in persuading your OH to get down on one knee OR you could always take matters into your own hands xx

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    Beth @ Twinderelmo
    August 4, 2016 at 9:29 am

    The guest list and seating plan are the bane of every wedding! We booked our wedding at a place where we got married and had everything there so it was only one place to sort. Pinterest is amazing for ideas too x

    • Reply
      Lisa Hudson
      August 4, 2016 at 9:53 am

      Thanks Beth. Yeh thats what I hope to do, have everything under one roof. Im not looking forward to the guest list at all xx

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